Walking an Unseen Road: Why I Choose Hope Over Certainty

When you’re living with a chronic or “incurable” diagnosis, you quickly learn that the medical world deals mostly in certainties — or at least, probabilities.

They’ll tell you the statistics. They’ll tell you the expected time frames. And if you ask about alternative or integrative approaches, the mainstream, allopathic perspective often says: “There’s no strong evidence that will change the outcome.”

But I’ve also been told something different.

I’ve had people — practitioners, friends, fellow patients — tell me that the things I’m doing, the “little” things and even the so-called “crazy” things, do have an impact. That they can help my body. That they matter.

And here’s the truth: it’s not easy.

Believing in something you can’t see yet is hard enough. But this isn’t just belief — it’s investment. My time. Money. Focus. Energy. Learning. I have to be at the helm, overseeing every detail, because at the end of the day, the only one fully keeping track and making the calls… is me.

That means if I get swayed the wrong way, I lose. If it doesn’t go well, I’m the one who loses out. The stakes are high, and the responsibility is mine.

But I keep going because I know possibility exists.

Not every pharmaceutical works for every patient. Not every natural therapy works for everyone either. But if someone else has done it, then it’s possible.

And I’d rather fight for possibility than settle for inevitability.

Hope over certainty. Every single time.

A Note of Hope

When you’re walking through something as big as cancer, the voices come from everywhere—doctors, friends, strangers on the internet, well-meaning loved ones. Opinions. Advice. Warnings. Statistics.

And while some of it comes from a place of care, the truth is…“If you want to make the wrong decisions, ask everyone.”

I’ve learned that the most important voice in my healing is my own—the one that whispers, you know what feels right for you.

Science and probability have their place, but they don’t get the final say over your hope, your fight, or your choice to explore every possible avenue. Alternative treatments, integrative care, lifestyle shifts—they may not be the “accepted” path for everyone, but they’ve been part of mine.

So if you’re here, reading this, feeling pulled toward something outside the box—please know:

• You’re allowed to trust yourself.

• You’re allowed to explore.

• You’re allowed to hold hope, even when the numbers don’t look like they’re in your favor.

Your healing is your story. And you don’t need everyone’s permission to write it your way.

xo

K.